I can’t seem to get Father’s Day out of my mind, even though the official celebration is over. I keep thinking about the young man (I shared in the last two articles Abortion Hurts Many...) who faced an unplanned pregnancy, then made the decision to support his girlfriend with the choice to have an abortion. Repeatedly, the question has been “What was he feelings on Father’s Day?”

My mind filled with thoughts, as I sat in church on Father’s Day of how many men were sitting in the pews with this “secret sin.” Questions kept popping up in my little brain like.... Do they feel the same lost as the woman who physical carried the child, then went through with the abortion? Do they think about the child's birth date? Maybe they too wonder if the child would have looked like them. Could they be thinking, what it would’ve sounded like to hear “Daddy, I love you.”

That's when I thought about young man, ...

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I’m continuing with the thoughts of one grandmother who lost her grandchild to an abortion.

She enjoyed the company of her son’s girlfriend, and from time to time she would share with this young woman about her abortion. She let her know how it had affected her and those closes to her. I remember looking into her eyes, and seeing the pain of hopelessness as grandmother’s voice became shaky speaking these words “I wish that I could have had just a few minutes with her. I know all she sees right now is a situation and that this is the best solution.” “You see, I thought the same thing. My life was going places and nothing was going to stop me.”

I could see the tears gently falling down her cheeks has she continued, “But you know, my life stopped the minute I placed my feet on the floor of that clinc after my abortion.” “I knew I had ...

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April, for the last several years, is Post -Abortion Awareness Month. 

As long as abortion is legal in this country, we will have women who are silently hurting because of their decision. Nevertheless, abortion doesn’t stop there, it touches other family members as well. From my own personal experience with the difficulty of bonding with my daughter for years, it also reaches deep into the lives of the fathers, grandparents, and siblings. Here is some thoughts of a grandparent who knew that she was about to lose her grandchild to an abortion.

She has given me permission to share with you the struggle that was going on in her heart, because of this act that was about to be hidden in the secret place… a place she was all too familiar with.

As her son opened up about the pregnancy, explaining to her th...

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There’s a clinic in our town where they offer the woman a stone just before they walk her down the hall to perform the abortion. This stone is to symbolize the difficult choice she is making and to help her through it.

The first time I heard about this was when a young lady came to the center for a pregnancy test. As we sat across from each other, I started to ask her some routine questions which lead to her sharing with me about her abortions. Half way through her story she reached into her coat pocket and pulled out a small semi-glossy stone. I’m sure the look on my face was puzzling, because it was then she began to explain where she got it and why it was given to her. She said they told her that this stone would help her get through this difficult time and that it would bring healing. For the first time I was at a loss for words. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing.

As I sat there listening to all the reasons why she went through with her abortions, I ...

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Whether I speak to an audience of many or just one, sharing that over 20 years ago I decided to have an abortion, I can hear sounds of emotion in the air. Here’s my thought during that moment, are you pro-abortion (pro-choice) or pro-life?  It may surprise you that I called myself a Christian and believed abortion should be legal, never thinking in a million years that I would go down that road.

Being a Christian and pro-choice is not as uncommon as you might think. I was actually quite surprised when I did a Google search. I found words that compared an unplanned pregnancy to a mistake or a punishment. I read several articles that even stated that until the baby takes its first breath outside of the womb, it’s not considered a person to those who are pro-abortion (pro-choice).

I must be honest here; I was pro-abortion (pro-choice) for many years after my abortion. Are you surprised? I went to church every Sunday a...

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Every week I have the opportunity to meet with women who might be facing an unplanned pregnancy.  Let me be honest, it isn’t easy sitting across from a young lady who has already voiced that if she is pregnant, she will be getting an abortion. It seems to be an easy solution in a moment of uncertainty, not realizing the destruction that will take place. As I sit across from her, this one thought keeps coming to me, "If I can only connect with her then maybe she’ll change her mind." She doesn’t know that I’m praying, asking God to give me an opening so that I can share my story (God’s Story) with her.

As I think back on day that I went to the clinic, the only life I saw was my own. I wanted to live. I had things to do, and people to see, just like her.  My career as a dance teacher was growing and I wasn’t about to let anyone or anything get in my way. It was my life I wanted to save. It sounds pretty callous, but it always is when w...

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Psalm 34:5 Those who look to him for help will be radiant with joy; no shadow of shame will darken their faces.

She was sad. It was hard for her to get out all the details, as she sat across from me. Knowing that I‘d been there, seemed to ease her nervousness. Yet, most of the time she avoided eye contact, but when she would look into my eyes, they were crying for help.

Abortion has that affect on those who’ve made the “choice.” At first, we find relief when the machine is finally turned off. Those working in the clinic tell us, we can get back to life as we knew it. But when morning comes, for many of us, life stands still. We want to move forward, yet taking the first step seems impossible.We try to figure out how to make up for what we've done. We shout in the darkness of the night...“If only I could go back, I’d change it all.”

So, when I meet with someone whose pain is consuming them, my heart cries out to the Lord “Please Father, let...

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I would like to thank all of you for coming back over the last several months to read my story (God’s Story)…My Secret Sin. I didn’t share my story to shock anyone but my intention was to show God’s grace, and how we can trust in His Word.

There are still days I visit my past, not so I will walk around with my eyes looking at the ground full of shame…oh no! But just like Joseph, I’m reminded how God took this awful experience, and is now using it for His glory. What Satan meant for evil, God is using it for good; I give God all the glory!

Since I’ve begun telling my story, whether it be at the hairdresser’s or at a speaking event, God has saturated me with His love, and has given me the courage to speak about this difficult subject. My heart goes out to women who at one time in their lives felt abortion was the only answer. I know what it’s like to hide a secret...

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There are things in my life I love to remember. Like, when my dad kissed me good-night before he went to bed or my mom’s sweet smile and tender words of encouragement. Remembering can bring a smile to your face or it can bring tears to your eyes. Looking back can often takes you to the places when we have seen God's faithfulness.

On March 27, 2009 “Beyond the Choice” abortion recovery program held a memorial service. We offer this service to give women who have gone through the program the opportunity to openly acknowledge and grieve their children who were lost through abortion.

Preparing for this special event, it reminded me of the day I had finally accepted my abortion as my child. Gazing at the table, it reminded me of the day that he was called by his name, a day he became a person to the world. There in the center stood a large white candle, symbolizing Jesus Christ, and placed around it were smaller candles representing the children lo...

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I felt it, as it embraced me. I saw it, as it looked into my eyes. I heard it, as it spoke these words with a tight hug…"Mom, I love you so much."

As my daughter and I were standing in the bathroom, doing what girls do before bedtime…forgiveness showed up. It was quite unexpected. But that’s just how our Father God is; He’s always giving us sweet little surprises to remind us of His goodness.

Many of you, who have read, Not Mine but God’s Story, know the secret sin that I carried and the struggles I had in my relationship with my daughter. There were many nights during that season of my life that I would cry out to God for understanding and forgiveness.

I was so ashamed of the words that would spew out of my mouth towards her. Times after time she would grab my hand, as little girls do, only to feel her mommy’s hand pulling back as angry words followed. Thoughts would race through my head of ways I wanted escape f...

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